How to deal with stress on a daily basis?
Whether recent events or the pace of life imposed on us, the society in which we live is conducive to stress. And the latter is pervasive, reaching most people and sometimes problematic.
Stress, when it is triggered over short periods of time in exceptional situations, is quite natural. But in the long term, this can have harmful consequences, on our state of mind and our mind, but also on our body!
Whether we are very sensitive to it, or more relaxed, let's learn together to differentiate positive stress from negative stress, and explore the possibilities available to us to combat the latter ...
Stress: positive or negative?
It is important to know that while stress is a completely natural reaction, it can be of two types. Positive stress, which poses no problem and will only have beneficial effects, and its negative inclination; which is unsuitable for it, and will have harmful effects.
Positive stress is a completely natural response of the body to a new stimulus (for example, a new task to do, or an unfamiliar environment). It creates a temporary pressure which helps us to boost our intellectual capacities: concentration, memory, learning capacities… in order to react as well as possible to the stressful situation.
Negative stress, on the other hand, does not necessarily appear in a specific situation. And above all, it has the unfortunate tendency to be prolonged and settle in time. It is often caused by the accumulation of situations perceived as dangerous, or anxiety-provoking, and is very common nowadays.
Far from helping us to improve our capacities, this bad stress has a negative impact on our state of mind, thus being able to impact other areas of our life and create a snowball effect ... It is also a source of digestive disorders, pain or insomnia. In short, this stress which threatens us on a daily basis must absolutely be fought. And for that, here are some tips to apply as soon as you feel the negative stress invade you!
How to relieve stress?
The first step in eliminating stress is to determine where it is coming from, so that you can attack it at the source by taking care of the reasons for its appearance. To do this, you can ask yourself a few simple questions:
- In what specific situations do you feel the most stressed?
- What areas of your life are you most worried about?
- Do you know for what reasons?
Once your main sources of stress have been identified, you will be able to determine what strategies to put in place to calm or even eliminate this anxiety.
Easy to say, much less to apply, you might say. However, it is important to explore, among your sources of stress, which ones you are able to remove the most from your daily life. Perhaps a change in environment, or in habits, can limit or eliminate some particularly stressful situations that you have identified. Some elements may seem insignificant; yet, taken together, their absence could considerably reduce the anxiety-inducing potential of your daily life!
Despite this, there are some aspects of our lives that we cannot control or change. Faced with these, other strategies are at your disposal to face them!
Here is one of the best methods related to breathing to reduce stress: cardiac coherence. Very simple to set up, it will allow you to refocus and reduce the physical symptoms linked to stress, in order to regain control over the situation. Get in a quiet place, alone if possible, and just focus on your breathing. Inhale for a few seconds, then freeze for a few seconds. Exhale for a few seconds, then block again. Continue for a few minutes, until you feel your breathing and heart rate calm.
Make time for yourself each week and devote it to something you enjoy. Sports or creative activities are often a good choice, as they allow you to concentrate on a goal and thus forget about the distressing thoughts. In addition, they make the body produce endorphin and dopamine, hormones essential for a feeling of calm and well-being.
Talking and talking about what is stressing us is a good way to let go of negative thoughts. To externalize your feelings, the important thing is to have a trustworthy person with whom we can share our discomfort and the situations that stress us. Whether or not that person can provide solutions, externalizing will always be a first step towards appeasement.
This trusted person can be a friend of yours or family, but you can also choose to speak with your doctor, or with a specialist therapist who can give you the best advice and listen to you carefully.
In conclusion, learning to manage the negative stress that can invade us is a real work on oneself, which is very important to do. Take time for yourself, to identify your sources of stress, and to put in place strategies to reduce or even eliminate each of them. Serenity is yours!
No matter how long it takes, the help you need; there are solutions, and they can help you overcome the negative stress of everyday life, to keep only the positive stress, from time to time, which will boost you and allow you to surpass yourself!